"It's difficult to find anything with greater potential to improve your life than an investment in your marriage, and it's equally difficult to find anything more personally destructive than when you don't. Your marriage impacts every portion of your life. If your marriage suffers, your life suffers. If your marriage thrives, your life thrives. There are few things that can impact you to such a degree..." - Jacob Reeve
Jacob & Kimberly Reeve, founders
INTRODUCTION
Welcome! We are happy you found us!
We’ve distilled cutting-edge marriage research, timeless Biblical wisdom, and decades of Spirit-led counseling to bring you the 12 Measures of a Winning Marriage. Just as mastering fundamentals drives success in sports, perfecting these 12 relational essentials ensures your family’s lasting health and happiness.
We've created this as a resource to help couples, counselors and churches improve the quality and strength of their marriages. Each measure offers a dedicated page with tools—overviews, videos, quick guides, interactive Q&A lessons, exercises, and targeted assessments—designed for quick grasp or deep exploration. Our approach skips endless problem-talk, training you in twelve clear concepts with resources to track your progress effectively.
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Assessment Guide
All BME tools are designed to be used by couples, counselors, or churches to strengthen marriages at any life stage. You can go through the course on your own, with a mentor, or in a group. It's self-paced, but we suggest a 12 week commitment for optimal results. Here is our recommended process:
FIRST, Become a member.
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SECOND, Take the Full Assessment & get your results.
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THIRD, Meet once per week for 12 weeks to work your way through the 12 MEASURES lessons.
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FOURTH, Retake the Full Assessment & measure your progress in each of the 12 categories.
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FIFTH, Access the Training Materials, Exercises and Specialized Assessments to dive more deeply into areas of interest or development.
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WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:
- Josh and Carissa S.
“Our experience was transformative. We felt lost and disillusioned and with little sense of hope, but within a few weeks, we were able to overcome major hurdles and rediscover the love and connection at the heart of our marriage again.”
"The goal of the best marriage ever isn’t to obtain perfection. It’s to obtain a state of perpetual improvement."
MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE A RESERVOIR OF JOY AND VITALITY INSTEAD OF CONFLICT AND HEARTACHE.
Founders Jacob and Kimberly Reeve have been counseling couples for over 25 years. In their ongoing pursuit of wisdom and education, they’ve gathered tools from the Gottman Institute, Southern Christian University, Calvary Chapel Bible College and Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry. Over the years they have planted and pastored three church communities and authored several books and training courses including titles like “The Great Procession, “Ancient Hebrew Culture,” and “The School of Jesus.” Despite past accomplishments, they see their family as their greatest achievement. Jacob and Kimberly have been married nearly thirty years and despite many trials and tribulations, they have discovered how to grow, year by year, in their admiration and enjoyment of each other while earning the love and respect of their six children.
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"We are on a mission to help couples unlock the ultimate pleasure and purpose of their marriage. Please accept our invitation and take this opportunity to transform your marriage and life today. Your family will thank you for it!"
